Before you start “kissing dating goodbye,” fall into a deep (or deeper) dark hole of depression and resort to consuming endless gallons of chocolate ice cream, we need to talk. Listen, being single is NOT the end of the world. It’s not. This whole singleness gig can be a tricky and, often times, a frustrating voyage to navigate through. With tons of self help books to choose from and countless Christian cliches to get you through your next “I won’t be bringing a plus one to your wedding” conversation, it can be quite the annoying season to live out. I know. It is by no means easy when everyone around you is celebrating all things bridal and you’re basically hanging on by a prayer and clinging to Jeremiah 29:11 all day e’ryday.
I get it. I’ve been there. But in my singleness, God has taught me so much about how to live this season out in the best way possible. He has taught me that this season can be endlessly wild, over the top amazing, and incredibly life-giving. However, in order for us to experience the depth of goodness He has to offer in singleness, we must learn to position ourselves differently before the Lord. This is one of the best season yet! Believe me. It really is. So with that said…
Just stop. It is time we stop feeling sorry for ourselves and grumbling about what we hope for but yet do not have. We are the best at throwing ourselves the ultimate pity parties. They may be fun for a while, but they don’t do us any good. And let’s be real, no one really likes hearing all the singles complain about being single. I once was stuck in this ‘woe is me because I’m single and what’s the point of even living” phase and it not only sucked the life out of me, but annoyed everyone around me. In my pouting, I could never find myself ‘happy’ because my life seemed to be over as I knew it. That’s pretty dramatic, I know. But when all your friends (and I mean allllll your friends #bridesmaidx14) get married, what is there left to do with your life but to fall into a deep hole of whining. A few pep talks and some carbs later, I realized that I needed to change not only my attitude, but position my heart more towards God. My Negative Nancy attitude (sorry to all the Nancy’s out there) wasn’t going to resolve anything, but most importantly, I wasn’t living out my best life because of it. As I learned to change my outlook and perspective on my singleness, as well as posture myself more upright before The Lord, I began seeing this season as a gift to be used for eternal greatness.