Before you start “kissing dating goodbye,” fall into a deep (or deeper) dark hole of depression and resort to consuming endless gallons of chocolate ice cream, we need to talk. Listen, being single is NOT the end of the world. It’s not. This whole singleness gig can be a tricky and, often times, a frustrating voyage to navigate through. With tons of self help books to choose from and countless Christian cliches to get you through your next “I won’t be bringing a plus one to your wedding” conversation, it can be quite the annoying season to live out. I know. It is by no means easy when everyone around you is celebrating all things bridal and you’re basically hanging on by a prayer and clinging to Jeremiah 29:11 all day e’ryday.
I get it. I’ve been there. But in my singleness, God has taught me so much about how to live this season out in the best way possible. He has taught me that this season can be endlessly wild, over the top amazing, and incredibly life-giving. However, in order for us to experience the depth of goodness He has to offer in singleness, we must learn to position ourselves differently before the Lord. This is one of the best season yet! Believe me. It really is. So with that said…
Just stop. It is time we stop feeling sorry for ourselves and grumbling about what we hope for but yet do not have. We are the best at throwing ourselves the ultimate pity parties. They may be fun for a while, but they don’t do us any good. And let’s be real, no one really likes hearing all the singles complain about being single. I once was stuck in this ‘woe is me because I’m single and what’s the point of even living” phase and it not only sucked the life out of me, but annoyed everyone around me. In my pouting, I could never find myself ‘happy’ because my life seemed to be over as I knew it. That’s pretty dramatic, I know. But when all your friends (and I mean allllll your friends #bridesmaidx14) get married, what is there left to do with your life but to fall into a deep hole of whining. A few pep talks and some carbs later, I realized that I needed to change not only my attitude, but position my heart more towards God. My Negative Nancy attitude (sorry to all the Nancy’s out there) wasn’t going to resolve anything, but most importantly, I wasn’t living out my best life because of it. As I learned to change my outlook and perspective on my singleness, as well as posture myself more upright before The Lord, I began seeing this season as a gift to be used for eternal greatness.
God knows the desires of your heart and He hears your prayers. Keep desiring, keep praying, and keep believing.
Celebrate your singleness as a season in life in which God is shaping, molding, and using you in accordance to His will. When we stop pouting, we can start truly living the life we were intended to live. If find yourself in a sore spot about your singleness, be encouraged by God’s endless promises for your future. Anchor yourself to those promises. Believe firmly in them and look forward to the future in full confidence that He WILL fulfill those promises in your life. God knows the desires of your heart and He hears your prayers. Keep desiring, keep praying, and keep believing.
As you wait, wait actively. Live out your singleness with intentional purpose. Fan into flame your passions, talents, and gifts in this season of singleness and use them intentionally for Him. Marriage is not the end all be all my friends. There, I said it. #sorrynotsorry. Marriage is so amazing and a beautiful representation of Christ and His bride, but it isn’t everything. Some people stroll through life with the misconception that it begins the moment they say ‘I do.’ Wrong.
Serve Jesus endlessly, pursue others relentlessly, and seek Him persistently. Use this season to breathe life into others and give of yourself fully as you live out your calling.
Our sole purpose in life is not to be married, but instead to live a life bringing glory to God, making Him famous and expanding the Kingdom. Everything else is the extra bonus that makes life just that much more sweeter. But when we live with that as our anthem, our eyes are not fixed on our temporary circumstances, but rather on our eternal purpose. Don’t just sit around twiddling your thumbs as you wait, but rather, get up, get out and do something. Serve Jesus endlessly, pursue others relentlessly, and seek Him persistently. Use this season to breathe life into others and give of yourself fully as you live out your calling.
Whether you are single or not, use the current season of life you are walking through for a purpose far greater than yourself. Jesus has a great plan for your life. As you walk along the journey you are currently called to, live it out wildly for the Lord, seeking nothing more than His Kingdom.
And if you allow Him to use you, He will rock your world!